She’s Flying…Off to College!

 Dear Reader:

I nearly collided with a jubilant young girl yesterday upon my arrival in the lobby of a large hotel.  She was happily spinning about with her arms outstretched. “I’m flying Mom! I’m flying!” she exclaimed.

“Fabulous,” came her mother’s enthusiastic reply. “But, don’t fly too close to the stairs!”

I remembered my daughter at the same age.  She was energetic, determined and curious. I could imagine her dancing beside me. She is now in Southern California, a 20-year-old college sophomore, earning excellent grades while working part-time. Today she made a deposit on her first off-campus apartment for next year. She is flying!

Shopping at T.J. Maxx for my daughter’s first apartment. Hmmm…maybe a knight for protection?!

She is also studying abroad this summer. She received the good news that she had been accepted into the international program on March 22, the day the terrorist attack took place in the vicinity of the Palace of Westminster in London. I was shopping for fun stuff for the girl’s apartment when I received a message from my husband about the Manchester attack two days ago.

Terrorist attacks are by nature appalling, but those that target children and young adults are the most heartbreaking. It’s hard to hold back tears when listening to a parent describe how they feel about their child’s death. This is not the way life should be. Parents should not have to face the death of their children. I wish there was something I could do to assuage the pain of those who have lost children and yet I imagine that there is nothing anyone can do. The pain will never leave.

Within hours of the attack at the concert, the Facebook page for college parents was filled with one simple question:  Is your daughter/son still planning on traveling to Europe this summer? Though our “children” are young adults, study abroad is made possible by parents. So the decision to go or not to go becomes a conversation that begins with:  “Do you still want to go?”

My daughter was upset by the news but does not want to “waste the opportunity.” My husband and I agree. As a young child we taught her to look both ways and to dial 911, and, most importantly, we tried to model responsible behavior. Thankfully, she was an inherently careful, thoughtful, observant girl and she did not cause us undue worry. Now that she is also an adult, we can discuss the fact that life is unpredictable which makes it that much more precious. One must fly despite the fact that the stairs can not always be seen.

Unless circumstances drastically change, my daughter will soon be on a plane heading toward a wonderful 7- week- long adventure…and my heart will be there, too!


2 thoughts on “She’s Flying…Off to College!

  1. Learning to let our children fly is a challenge and this post really helped me Michele. I recently encountered this when my 7 yo would not look both ways on her bicycle heading out of the driveway. It makes me VERY nervous that no matter how many times we explain to her that she should look, she does not. For now, we have resorted to putting out a big orange cone with writing on it to watch for children. I know I will not always be there to help watch out for her, so I agree this is the first step of many in letting go.
    I also am deeply disturbed by the Manchester bombings. This profile picture was taken there almost a year ago to the day. My husband and I were enjoying the view from our hotel roof deck. The people we encountered during his business trip there were delightful. I am saying many prayers for the devastating events that took place there.
    I appreciate your post and tying your concern for your daughter in with the recent events. It is hard to let them fly when these horrid events keep happening. You have led by example how to be cautious, brave and now how to continue to go live life.

    1. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, Kristin. I can remember the “bicycle days” too! Little by little, we let them go, but we never stop being Moms!

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