Lazy Post

I’ve had this book for years; apparently I no longer need it!

Dear Reader:

I am feeling very lazy. I can’t seem to make myself write or clean or anything. (Oh, that rhymed!) I went to the grocery store yesterday; today I’ve cleaned up after the puppy. That’s it. I’ve felt this way all week. It’s been ten days since I posted anything despite the fact that I have a half dozen drafts that I could finish.

I’m not depressed; I know how that feels. I’m not ill. I’ve got nothing to complain about.

It’s times like this that I remember a line from a very helpful counselor I saw twenty years ago. “Make friends with the feeling,” she’d say over and over again. I’d say this psychologist earned her money, as I pull that advice out of my pocket often. Here’s the reasoning: feelings can not be wished away. Feelings exist regardless of our desires to manipulate them.

Sometimes, there’s a clear reason we feel the way we do. If we’ve suffered a loss of any kind, we feel sad, alone and lost. How should we feel? Exactly as we do. But, there are times when it may be hard to determine why we feel what we do. It is these times when we must be patient with ourselves.

Perhaps, I just need a rest. Or maybe, my seasonal allergies are tiring me. It could be that the news has overwhelmed me (fires and floods and Weinstein and the POTUS). Then there’s the coastal fog that’s pushed out the sun most of the week. Whatever the reason, I have no ambition this week and I am going to make friends with the feeling.

How are you feeling, dear reader,


P.S. I’ll be back next week…I think!

4 thoughts on “Lazy Post

  1. This was a really helpful post, thanks. It’s been at least a month since I wrote a blog post, and I’ve let other social media slide too. Yep – feeling lazy for all sorts of reasons, but trying to be kind to myself about it.
    I love that advice – to make friends with the feeling. I think I’ll just do that!

  2. Hi Michele, I found myself nodding as I read your post. I can so identify with this! Some days (weeks!) I just can’t muster up the energy to do anything. I used to feel guilty (that to do list running in my head all the time!) but now I just accept that it is what it is. I feel this way today, tomorrow might be something different:) Thanks for the post and the reminder that being kind to ourselves is a good thing!

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