Why Were You Born?


Dear Reader:

Retirement brings with it the opportunity and desire to clarify one’s purpose…again. I thought a lot about my purpose in my 20s. I loved to read and write and I was inspired by Gloria Steinem and Barbara Walters. It was incredibly fulfilling to focus on my education. Some of the most enjoyable days of my life were spent pounding away at typewriters while earning my B.A. in Journalism.

In my 30s and 40s, I was busy, as most people are. I didn’t spend a lot of time pondering anything beyond purchasing a home, advancing in my career and then mothering my daughter.

Natalie is now an adult and I have the luxury of time to ponder my existence once again. But, it’s not merely an intellectual pursuit. A person’s “why” should serve to order her days. Our values should match our activities and so the exercise has value.

At 58 years of age, I’m struck by how little my perception of my purpose has changed. And, I’m encouraged to discover that I seem to be living in alignment with my core values.

I have always been compelled to create, decorate, celebrate, communicate, question, advocate and challenge myself. And, my voice has always been high-pitched and feminine and aligned with that of other women who believe in the cause of equality.

I know “why.” Do you?


10 thoughts on “Why Were You Born?

  1. Wow! That’s a big question for breakfast time! I would like to think that one of my callings is to be the catalyst for children to be able to express themselves (I’m a speech and language therapist). I was a shy child and whilst I didn’t have communication problems, the children who are struggling to get out are important to me. I love the moments when we have shared something, which more often than not is non-verbal; you can’t put your finger on it, but there is a spark.
    I would also hope that my daughters and stepdaughter are starting off more awareness of the unconscious biases that might hold them back, and have the confidence to challenge these, in others and in themselves.
    And finally I think I am here to be part of the wider universe, to take my place with the birds and bees and to learn how to limit our impact…

    1. Absolutely beautiful, Ali. I’m glad you are part of the universe to contribute your unique gifts in such a beautiful way.

    1. TY Beth. I find you to be an inspiring woman, as well. You are a good neighbor and friend. You’ve always been willing to lend a hand to the people in your community and circle of friends who need help. You truly are beautiful inside and out!

  2. To be honest, other than the obvious (love, family, children), I really haven’t discovered my ‘why’ yet. But the more I write (which has only been the last few years of my life), the more I think it’s tied up in that. Exactly how or what, I’m still finding out – but I’m feeling positive I’ll work it out.
    I hope when I get to 58 (12 years to go), my answer can be as clear, assertive, and fulfilling as yours.

    1. You say the nicest things! Love family and children…that’s exactly what I was 100 per cent about at your age….and I have no regrets about that!

  3. I don’t know when my core values were formed but I do know, that like you, mine are still much the way they always were. In my 60s I just express them differently and perhaps more wisely. That’s a big PERHAPS. For as long as I can remember I have been passionate, in my own quiet way, about social and political justice and equality and fairness. In recent years I have worked on expressing that passion through loving kindness. I thought I was getting the hang of it until your unlovely leader came along. I simply cannot find enough loving kindness to cope with that one. 😀

    1. I share your passions, although I think I’m a bit “louder” than you. You can imagine how horrifying the state of our country is for me. It’s very difficult. It’s a miracle I’ve only been trolled once. I almost feel afraid to speak out to often because it has never been this horrible hence my feelings are very strong! Sometimes so strong that I just need to turn them off and take a stroll.

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